.The Untold Story of Pete the Poet

I thought I had some understanding of the pain my friend Pete the Poet went through every week, probably every day, but I’m learning now how little I really understood.

I know he struggled with a sense of feeling cut off from the world of other people, alienated and distanced, and the painful news that local poet Peter McLaughlin died on April 18 at age 54, having taken his own life, has left me reeling with a sense of being alienated and distanced, as well. I’ve taken a baby step toward Pete’s world, a world that I enter constantly through the words he left behind, a book of poems that I as his publisher had looked forward to bringing out until an anguished Pete told me no, he just couldn’t handle that.

But Pete got too many things too right for me not to be haunted by the lines of his poems, the music of his pain, told with such clarity and humanity, courage and comic flair, that we laughed along with him and only rarely paused to tune into what lay under the surface. Pete, who grew up in San Francisco and moved to Santa Cruz in 2002, found a local following with regular appearances at open mics like the ones at the Ugly Mug and Santa Cruz Mountain Brewing. He showed up one Tuesday night here in Soquel for our regular open readings at the Wellstone Center in the Redwoods, the writers’ retreat center I co-founded with my wife, Sarah, and I had no idea what to make of him. Sarah had heard Pete talking about his poetry that afternoon at the Buttery, and encouraged him to stop by. I worried about what this innocuous-looking character might share under the label “poetry,” with his wiry salt-and-pepper brush cut, the athletic thin build of a former runner and P.E. coach, and an open, engaging look that expressed both a low-simmering bewilderment with the world and a readiness to wink and turn that bewilderment into a joke. I braced myself for haikus on kitchen appliances or odes to the pitching style of Giants left-hander Madison Bumgarner.

Pete, bouncy with nervousness, told me he had written a poem called “I Wish I Was Billy Collins,” a uniquely Pete mashup of gentle mockery and honest homage, and had actually put the poem in an envelope and mailed it off to the bestselling poet himself. Billy–outdoorsy poster boy of the New Yorker-and-NPR set–had written Pete back. And he’d sent a funny, implicitly approving note! Which as a matter of fact, Pete could pull out and read aloud right then and there for us! It was all pretty amazing, and Pete enjoyed winning the “Show and Tell” competition with such aplomb.

Here’s that poem, which would have been the title poem of the collection.

I Wish I Was Billy Collins

I wish I was Billy Collins.

No, not George Clooney, just good old Billy C.

I bet Billy lives in some

charming upstate hamlet,

probably New York or Vermont.

His house is rustic and inviting

no gate, just a hand-painted peace sign out front

and a box that says “free rhubarb, take some”

a wrap-around porch and swing,

tasteful unpretentious curtains,

a happy chimney whispering out aromatic smoke,

and there’s always an apple pie

cooling on the window sill.

And so here I come now—

Yes! It’s me, fantasy Billy

smiling the smile of the successful

rolling up in my vintage

(but not gaudy)

’56 Chevrolet pick-up

my dog Thoreau, a rescue of course, riding shotgun

manic chickens scattering crazily as I pull in.

You see,

I was in town, at the diner,

with Clem and Lefty and Cecil

sipping coffee and discussing

the high school football team’s prospects.

It’s fall—everything is beautiful.

My wife, who works with orphans,

has just come in from her pottery studio.

She kisses me and informs me

that my agent called and Harvard

wants to honor me again next month.

“Oh how tiresome,” I say.

“I’d rather play horseshoes with Clem.”

But I go anyway.

Some wealthy hedge-fund alum

Whose literary daughter has all my books

dispatches his pilot to fetch me.

He glides into our cow pasture at the appointed hour.

We don’t have cows any more,

too much work.

But it’s nice not having to drive to the airport.

I make my speech.

Everyone loves me.

At the reception afterward

as usual

some comely twenty-nine-year-old

grad student

her siren’s hand lightly on my lapel

lets me know just how much

my work has meant to her….

but I’m used to this by now

so it’s no trouble.

I’m such a great guy.

Back at my hotel suite

I toss off a quick poem

for the New Yorker

and sleep soundly as always.

I even wear pajamas.

My children all work for Oxfam

and are expert mountain climbers.

I never need Viagra

my eyes are 20/20

my teeth so sound

the dentist has me visit

only once a year.

But sometimes … on quiet evenings

When I’m tinkering with the Chevy

(I call her Sylvia, after Sylvia Plath)

the Red Sox game quietly on the radio

I find myself wishing I lived in Santa Cruz … yes

In a musty studio apartment

with a decrepit cat who barfs violently on the carpet at 4 a.m.

it’s as though he’s trying to turn himself inside out for Christ’s sake

and neighbors whose high decibel, jack-hammer style love-making

comes and comes again hard through the cheap-ass half-inch sheetrock wall

penetrating even the protective pillow I press to my beleaguered ears

and a voodoo smoke alarm with a freaking mind of its own

and a malevolent marauding murder of hoodlum crows

who seem to derive particular glee from shitting only on my car …

But that lasts about two seconds, tops

I shake my head, smiling sheepishly,

and I chuckle softly to my silly Billy self

switch off the light

and head upstairs to bed

to my extraordinary wife

and sleep like a fucking baby.

Pete read the poem aloud to us that first night, and looked jolted by the loud round of applause he received, as if his hair was standing on end. He raised his eyebrows and thanked us for listening, as he did so many times. He’d made us laugh, he’d made us smile wonderingly at all he’d packed into the lines, as he would again and again. Pete could describe the indescribable in a matter of fact way that, depending on the subject matter, was often hilarious, sometimes just random. He had periods where he visited every week to read his poems and periods where he stayed away, because he just couldn’t grapple with the emotional roller coaster of feeling high over the way we all loved his poems and then being up all night, vibrating with self-doubt and self-loathing. During one of the periods where he was letting himself enjoy being embraced by us, he helped out with some chores before an event at the Wellstone Center and explained to me in meticulous detail that he was better at sweeping than anyone you’d ever meet, and demonstrated his technique, which was indeed remarkably efficient. Pete felt at home talking about sports, and when I told him what it was like hanging out with Dusty Baker or Bruce Bochy, a break from his episodic ambivalence about life seemed to come over him. We worked for months preparing his book, and Pete and our Wellstone Books intern Kyle would sit together for two or three hours at a time, going over line breaks and occasionally word choice, but mostly just getting silly and laughing so hard they cried.

I’ve always thought of breakthroughs in writing as offering a kind of handrail to take us deeper into life, but for Pete it wasn’t like that. I didn’t offer to publish him because it would be good for him, I offered to publish him because the world needed to see his stuff. When I talked to Casey Coonerty Protti, the owner of Bookshop Santa Cruz, about this remarkable unlikely talent, or to Eric at PGW, our distributor, I always had a cautious excitement, because with Pete you never knew. He used to show up at Bookshop and stand there imagining he was giving a reading, the focus of 40 sets of adoring eyes, and told me that after much practice he was ready for that. Then he changed his mind. Pete’s poems worked best when he read them himself, the music of his pain coming alive with a kind of low key jazz beat, the exasperation underneath the words ebbing and flowing and sometimes exploding into a full-fledged rant, but above all a chord of hope or optimism sounding somewhere in the lines. He identifies so totally with an electric car in “Angry Prius” that it’s both hilarious and exhilarating to hear him riff. Here are the final lines:

Listen, I’ll drive in the slow lane forever—

“Baby on Board” sign if you want.

Carefully shuttle all those dorky Montessori kids

to tai chi, chess club, kite-flying, whatever.

Re-upholster me with hemp for God’s sake if you want.

Hell, slap a “Feel the Bern” sticker on me.

It’s all good.

Just let me be the only little bad-ass Prius in the world,

man enough to proudly tote an automatic weapon if need be.

You know, for when the oil does actually dry up,

and it’s every thirsty Mad-Max hybrid for himself.

And please let me taste the fast lane once,

just once,

for like five glorious full-throttle minutes …

Aggressively flashing my high-beams

at some clueless, Lexus-driving realtor yapping on her cellphone,

honking in repetitive denigrating blasts

at a tentative mini-van loaded with three generations of wide-eyed Pakistanis.


let’s maniacally flip off a dawdling astigmatic rabbi

in a shit-brown Yaris.

Oh, let me live a little,

just a little,

before the inevitable day when you trade me in,

like a once-scintillating wife you’ve slowly grown tired of,

on that fully gelded, sexless, lifeless,

smug-as-a-church-lady, no-gas-tank, phone-booth-sized,

ultimate P.C. status symbol,

the electric car.

Pete would fold back into himself after he finished “Angry Prius,” eyes down, his apologetic demeanor both comical and revealing. The poems were a way to share some small inkling of what it was like to be him, to have an imagination that rocketed through all the same private thoughts we have, just like us, but with more zany energy and freakishly spot-on detail than the rest of us can muster. Hearing him read, there was always astonishment in the air, the astonishment of seeing major talent face to face, and in so unlikely-seeming an individual, an unassuming divorced fiftysomething man living a quiet life in Santa Cruz. Pete understood all this—that, in fact, was part of the joke—and he had a way of reading where you could see him taken over by something beyond himself, something larger, that pulled him through the words, something that opened up to reveal what most of us keep hidden. Selfishly, we loved listening to him, even wondering what exactly it cost him to share so much. I never pushed Pete, except nudging him to read a favorite line one more time, when I knew he was up for it anyway. I didn’t push him because I knew there was much I would not know and could not know about the private terrain of his dread.

Pete had his quirks, which he invited us to laugh about along with him. He had never owned a computer, and knew he never would. He talked of one day buying a cell phone, but the plan seemed farfetched. He wrote his poems out by hand in pencil and kept them in a binder, which he had a way of clutching in his lap, just before cracking it open to pick a poem to read, as if he feared it might explode in his lap. He’d gone so far as to duct-tape his binder shut one time and hide it away in his closet, half-convincing himself that it was gone; eventually he came around and cut it open again.

Now that he is gone, I feel myself flayed by the pain of losing him, disoriented by the suffocating weight of knowing I’ll never talk to him again, never share a laugh. But with each day since I got the news, I’m trying to focus as well on the wonder of being friends with him, the wonder of sharing his moments of joy and happiness. He was arriving at the end of a long and harrowing journey each time he made it to easy-going and laughing, letting fly with another spontaneous hilarious line. I was lucky to share that with him. We were all lucky.

More than any other poem, I find myself going back to “Old School Timmy,” a poem in a different key than most everything Pete wrote. He only read it aloud to us after much coaxing, underselling it in the extreme, but it was a revelation in its own way, autobiographical in a different way than most of his other work. Pete would fight back tears late in the poem as he read, but then look up smiling once he’d made it through another reading.

Old School Timmy

Hi my name’s Timmy Archibald and I’m seven

going on eight and you’re invited to my

birthday party at Magic Lane Fun Center

this Saturday but leave your sissy parents

at home ’cause we’re bowling without those wimpy

little fences that block off the gutters so your

sensitive feelings won’t get hurt because

you’re too uncoordinated to roll a sparkly

eight-pound ball straight down the alley.

I’d rather bowl an honest seven than some pretend

sixty-three and if you cry for any

reason I’ll sock your shoulder so hard

you’ll really have something to cry about

we’re eating corn dogs and drinking Mountain Dew

and we’re putting seventy-five cents in

the condom machine in the men’s room even

if we have to stand on the garbage can

to do it let me tell you, show and

tell is gonna really be something on Monday.

If you’re a spazz I’m not picking you for my team at recess

go play four square with the girls

or tetherball by yourself, creep.

I don’t want fairy tales without kids

getting eaten I don’t want a trophy

for picking my nose in right field

I’m sure as hell not hitting a baseball

off a tee and if you crowd the plate

I’ll drill you just like my dad told me.

I can’t stand grownups who wear costumes

on Halloween and take pictures of every dumb thing

their rotten kids do. I can cross the street

by myself so don’t hold my hand I’m

almost eight for God’s sake.

My uncle told me back in the day

playgrounds had metal slides ten feet high

you could jump off and kids threw

dirt clods at each other real hard and

dogs would have fights like savage wild

animals and you could watch them have sex

and sometimes they’d end up stuck together

and you could ride in the open bed of a truck

or at least pack nine or ten kids in

a car all crazy like clowns at the circus.

Johnny’s mom is a piece of ass, that’s what

my dad says, I’m not sure what he means

but the other moms don’t like her at all she

bartends at TGIFriday’s where the

dads go to watch sports my mom works

at the daycare she hates my dad she

says he’s emotionally bankrupt he works

at the lumber yard but his back hurts a lot.

He can’t really play too much any more.

He mostly just watches TV.

He was a great bowler before I was born,

he has trophies and a smashed-up old pin

with 300 written on it and pictures of him

smiling with other guys all wearing shiny shirts

that say Al’s Refrigeration on them

they look really happy.

He’s pretty fat now

and has to take pills for his heart

he has a girlfriend she’s a hairdresser but

she usually comes over after I’m in bed

I hear them laughing then it’s quiet.

Once I heard him tell her I was a mistake.

Mom says she’s through with men the assistant

principal took her out a couple times she

says he’s a goddam toe-licking pervert.

Mom and Dad went to counseling before they split

and the time I went I drew

pictures of how I felt.

mostly they were of people

living deep underground.

I remember Mom cried real hard.

Dad just sat there, looking at his hands …

sometimes I wish I was invisible,

and no one would ever know I was there,

but I’d be there,

just kind of floating around, you know,

like a really nice ghost, or maybe just part of the air.

Pretty crazy, huh?

Anyway, the party’s at three,

no grown-ups allowed.

There will be a memorial for Peter McLaughlin at 3 p.m. on June 3, at 452 Palm St. in Santa Cruz.


  1. Steve,
    Well done! You understood my friend and classmate so incredibly well. Pete’s poetry was present in his thoughts and observations as far back as 1981 when I first met him in college. He would make us howl with his prank calls to the school radio station and with his easy ‘on air’ confident banter we would encourage him to sign up for an available ‘dj’ time slot but he would eventually decide that the time wasn’t right. We saw his talent and wanted it to be recognized by a larger audience but something would hold him back. We begged him to don the school mascot uniform and display the physical comedy that he could pull off so easily in a small gathering. He gave it a shot during a basketball game but if I remember correctly he exited stage left before halftime. I’m so glad that through you and a supportive community he was able to share those talents. I’m sure that the positive feedback he received must have been nourishing to his soul. Though I lost touch with Pete over the years I’m delighted that you and your friends knew the hilarious and complex character that I also knew.
    It’s painfully sad that he’s gone.

  2. This is beautiful. We loved Peter. He was an edge-dweller, a word lover, a storyteller. He charmed me with his language and his banter. He was a troubadour.

  3. I am so saddened to hear about Pete. He was my teacher, my basketball coach, my confidant and my friend when I was 15. He was a very special person to me. So shy, smart and unassuming. After my freshman year in HS, my family moved away and we wrote letters during my first year away. I still have them. How kind he was to find the time and energy to do that. Then he quit, moving on to other things… and I tried to look him up every few years, when I was back in the Bay Area but never did manage to locate him. He seemed just to sort of slip away, despite the number of people who would have liked to be in contact with him. That may have been part of it. Just all too much.
    I had no idea about these other talents of his and I’m so amazed to hear, and read, about this other Pete. He’ll always be 28 to me, patient, understanding, a bit dark, so handsome and so kind. I am glad to have finally found him and wish I had had an opportunity to be adult friends and enjoy these other talents of his. I miss him and would give anything to read more poetry of his. Thanks for sharing these lines.

  4. Found this by accident, Steve, and enjoyed it so much. Thanks to you, I feel as if I know Pete
    and maybe even you a bit. Good people, both of you. And now I’m going to go to bed because
    It’s 5 O’clock In The Morning, for pete’s sake,—and for the real Pete’s sake I’m gonna pray that now he’s safe in heaven, Pete’s happy ever after.

  5. Thank you for posting this. It is beautiful and it made me cry. I didn’t know Peter but I feel like I know him a little now and I love his poetry. Is there any way to read more of It? I am out of the country until June 5th, so I will not be able to attend the memorial… thank you and blessing, Maria

  6. Pete was a most extraordinary person. I knew him as a runner who refused to run in a circle. If he was going to run it had to be an “out and back”. So we would run out to blackberry falls or do laps to the gate at Pogonip and back. He used to ride his beautiful road bike a long time ago which now hangs on the wall at his house. He hasn’t ridden it in years, but he likes looking at it with something like regret but that’s not quite it. No matter how many times I tried to get him to take it down he just shook his head and that was that.
    He was also a trumpet player. He used to go out to the lighthouse at the harbor or to a special place on West Cliff to serenade the sea. He was a regular at Bocce Cellars the same night every week but I can’t remember which. And let’s not forget he liked the NYT crosswords.
    I’ve never met anyone quite like him…but I do understand that thing about the phone.

  7. Thank you for a wonderful article about my friend Peter McLaughlin. I am very ill with 14 tumours on the brain , I had to come home to England but Peter came to see me at Natural Bridges for a farewell with all the poets from the Tannery.
    Are you going to publish his poems? I would love to know more about Peter…….he really had a very special way about him, the world would benefit from his humour.
    If you meet his mum please give her my love deepest sympathy, and to you too, it’s not easy knowing Peter and hearing this news….I never knew he was troubled to the point of suicide.

  8. I didn’t want the article you wrote to end. I want to hear more about Pete, I wish I could read more of his poetry as well. I hope someday I can. Thank you!

  9. I am so saddened to hear about Pete. He was my teacher, my basketball coach, my confidant and my friend when I was 15. He was a very special person to me. So shy, smart and unassuming. He even babysat once or twice for my siblings and me that year when my parents went out of town. After my freshman year in HS, my family moved away and we wrote letters during my first year away–I still have them. How kind he was to find the time and energy to do that. Then he moved on to other things… and I looked him up every few years, when I was back in the Bay Area, but never managed to locate him. He seemed just to sort of slip away, despite the number of people who would have liked to be in contact with him. That may have been part of it–just all too much.
    I had no idea about these other talents of his—poetry and music—and I’m so amazed to hear, and read, about this other Pete. He’ll always be 28 to me, patient, understanding, a bit dark, so handsome and so kind. I am glad to have finally found him now and wish I’d had the opportunity to be friends as adults and enjoy these other talents of his. I miss him and would give anything to read more poetry of his. Thanks for sharing these lines, Steve.
    Margaret Farmer Pringle
    London, UK

  10. Steve, Thank you for your wonderful tribute to Pete. He was a classmate, teammate and close friend at Wesleyan and later lived with my brother in SF for a few years. He was gifted is some may ways..sporty and intelligent and in his poetry you see his wit, intuitive human deductions, and sarcasm..all qualities I vividly remember from our Wes days spent on long runs, playing hoops and enjoying many beers together. He often referred to himself in the third person as “The Great Peetski” ..we have most certainly lost one of life’s great characters way too early. Condolences to his family.

  11. I had the pleasure of meeting Pete last summer at Wellstone. He was humble and gracious. After we participated in open mic I was fortunate enough to exchange pleasantries with Pete and as so many others had, encourage him to share his works with the world. Listening and talking to Pete was a kin to having an encounter with the most beautiful yet flawed of what humankind has to offer. Someone honest enough to share his fears and discomforts about the human condition is truly an anomaly in this narcissistic/detached world. With so few people like Pete around I am truly happy to have been in the right place, at the right time to have met one of the least and best of us. Farewell Pete.

  12. Peter’s reluctance to perform or work on his act was his act.
    He was magic, pure every damn time.
    Like that first love before you fell in love with love.
    He deserved his own T.V. show.
    “And I was thinking, I wanted to marry her”
    Just one of the great lines he would slay us with.
    I’m so comforted and proud to have known him.
    The last time I saw him he arrived late and I gave him my 4 minutes that had been saved
    By the kindness of the other poets.
    We all needed the laughter, Mr. McLaughlin and you did not disappoint.
    He was just 14 days older than my oldest son.
    And I grieve as tho I have lost one.

  13. Peter was my classmate in Junior High. He was athletic without being the Athletic One, popular without being The Popular Kid. He seemed comfortable with it himself. I liked him. What goes on inside the person at the desk next to ours? I remember this, he could outrun us all.

  14. Pete was the track coach at my high school many years ago. I remember his shyness and the way he smiled with his eyes. While I didn’t run on the cross country team I remember Pete well. He was always joking with us all and had a warmth about him. I am saddened to hear about his passing and my heart goes out to his family and friends. He is certainly missed and it sounds like he definitely made his mark on peoples lives in a very good way. Farewell Pete.

  15. Pete was one of a kind and someone we will always remember. He made the world a better place and had everything going for him. I was lucky enough to know him and have some fond memories running with him, hearing him play the trumpet and of him telling stories of his days at Brown as well as later being a basketball coach. In the 15 years i have lived in santa cruz, living within a mile or so of each other, we frequently ran into each other, although our lives seemed to take such separate paths, i took for granted having known him and just hearing this news is so tragic and I feel for his brothers and parents. Pete was such a gift in so many ways to those around him and the world. I hope to see him on the other side someday.


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